Walls unloved

It may be true that, as Robert Frost says, “good fences make good neighbors,” but they don’t do a whole lot for the Intrawebs: at least two of the sites on Ye Olde Blogroll have gone invitation-only, and I have a semi-firm policy against begging for access.

I’m sure the bloggers in question have perfectly good reasons for taking this action, but it is inevitable, I think, that efforts to keep out people you don’t like will also keep out people you do, or might, or used to, like.



  1. sya »

    11 March 2009 · 7:24 pm

    I’ve come across many instances where people have tried to “advertise” their blog, say on a message board, but their blog is invitation only. It’s contradictory and, well, frustrating if you really want to read their blog. Besides, I’m too lazy to request access. Maybe I’ll miss something great, but in the big scheme of things, it’s not such a big loss. (And another thing, if you restrict access to only the people who like you or that you like, wouldn’t the comments section just turn into a big echo chamber? Wouldn’t a bubble chamber be more fun?)

  2. fillyjonk »

    11 March 2009 · 7:57 pm

    I find obscurity (and perhaps, “boringness” to the sort of people whom I might not invite, were I given the chance to pick and choose) is as effective as throwing up a ‘wall,’ but it still allows for the serendipity of someone you might not expect would be interested in reading you, windup up reading you.

    I always feel bad when a blog I read goes “invitation only.” Too many instances of not being invited to birthday parties as a child, I think…

  3. Scott »

    11 March 2009 · 9:54 pm

    I’ve done a perfectly fine job of running off readers though judicious use of zero limitations on who can access it.

  4. McGehee »

    11 March 2009 · 10:05 pm


    Why bother with a website then? Why not write whatever they want to write on a spiral notebook and mail photocopies to the select?

  5. Jeff Shaw »

    12 March 2009 · 11:23 am

    If its me, give me a few days to sort some things out.

  6. Lynn »

    12 March 2009 · 11:27 am

    “Too many instances of not being invited to birthday parties as a child”

    Yeah, maybe that’s it. I’ve always been one of the left out and unnoticed people of the world so I’m a little sensitive about being left out.

    McGehee – Absolutely right. Or they could just create a mailing list to send stuff to.

  7. fillyjonk »

    12 March 2009 · 12:51 pm

    And I have to admit it, I’m always a little tickled when I get a comment on my blog from someone I don’t expect as a “regular reader” (i.e., someone outside of the knitting/quilting hobbyist community)

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